That’s the problem with your spouse being your best friend.
As you give up those things you find fulfilling and important for the sake of the relationship, this places a tremendous burden on your spouse to fill the void of whatever you gave up. And this burden will create neediness and dependency, as well as resentment and boredom.
One of the best things you can do for your spouse is have a couple of great same-sex friendships.
Every marriage needs space between the spouses. It is within this space that you find energy, passion, eroticism, quiet time, and personal fulfillment.
While I believe that friendship within the marriage is vital for the relationship,One of the biggest killers of passion in marriage is all the meaningless time spouses spend together. And this monotonous coexistence is what often comes to define most marriages.
If you want to create a great marriage full of energy, adventure, passion, and love, spend some time away from your spouse with your friends.